The pros and cons of singledom

Is it better to be or not to be single? (Photo by Adele van Wyk)

Couples are in the nitty-gritty of prepping for an unforgettable Valentine’s Day, while singles are probably gathering with other singles to eat heart-shaped cookies. In light of this, I’d like to ask: is it better to be or not to be single? Let’s take a look.

Pros:

1. Having the freedom to meet whoever, whenever, wherever.

2. Having ownership over the remote control and the freedom to watch your favorite TV show (even if it’s *The Bachelor*) without being judged.

3. Taking up all the space in your bed. Honestly, I don’t know a student with a bed larger than a twin size, so enjoy it while you can. Also, enjoy the absence of snoring, kicking and general disturbance (other than the noise caused by housemates).

4. When he/she picks up the bill because, after all, “it’s your birthday.”

5. Focusing on the important things, such as school and building your career, without having your decisions being influenced by the hopes of that special other.

Cons:

1. No partner in crime.

2. No butterflies in your stomach, tingling sensation in your toes, or best friend you get to see every day and night (sorry, I had to say it).

3. No one to make fun of whenever you want with minimal repercussions.

4. Our minds slowly start to convince us that we may be forever alone or that no one will be able to meet our standards (which, honey, the former would explain why you’re still single).

5. You don’t gain a huge lesson learned from being in a relationship—getting through the ups and downs as a team.

Today is February 14, and the world wants you to believe that being single sucks and being in a relationship rocks.

The truth is, both are fine. And luckily, there is an in-between: dating. That, in my opinion, is the perfect combination of freedom and attachment.